In Chinese philosophy there is balance in everything in the cosmos. There is a YIN and a YANG. There is the masculine and the feminine.
For much of my life I was encouraged to be "masculine". Go, be, win, chase, etc. It worked well in certain areas of my life, but not in my relationships.
What I have learned in many years of dating and study is that men do not like to be
"Out-Alphaed". What does that mean? It means that if you choose a "masculine man" as your mate, the only energy that will work with him is the feminine or YIN energy. If you are acting out of your masculine side or YANG, you will turn him off. Thus, he will move away from you or become inert (non-active).
How can you practice being more YIN or Feminine?
1. Wait for a man to call you. If you start off chasing him, you will be forever in this cycle.
2. If he offers a gift, such as dinner, receive it graciously by accepting it and thanking him.
This does not mean you owe him anything more than your beautiful company.
3. When he speaks, listen. If men are interrupted they feel disrespected.
4. Cultivate the power of attraction. Getting is a masculine concept. Attracting is feminine.
5. Practice stillness. The only way to be patient in the in-between time is to be ok with solitude.
And finally,
6. Remember that YIN energy is just as powerful as YANG.
In nature, there is night and day. Every plant would die if there were only sun shining on it all the time. So think of your relationship like a precious flower, give it light and dark for it to flourish and blossom.
I look forward to receiving your questions, comments, and feedback.
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Have a wonderful week. Namaste. MM
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